I could tell you that I didn’t hear my husband come in the door, but that would be a lie.
The truth is that I did hear him fiddle with his keys, then pick up his computer bag with one hand and gym bag with the other, ultimately shoving the door open with his elbow.
I did hear it, though it would be understandable if I didn’t—what with the thunderous crashing of my preschooler’s Disney cars as they raced across our dining room floor, not to mention my toddler screaming “Mommy hold me!” on repeat as she clung to my leg while I seasoned the chicken breasts for dinner.
Even with all that noise and chaos, I did hear my husband come home from work. I heard him loud and clear.
But I did not budge from my spot at the stove. I did not turn my body or even just my head. I didn’t say a word either.
I simply pretended I hadn’t heard him come in.
Here’s the really crazy part of the story
It sounds like a passive aggressive move, doesn’t it? A really mean, manipulative thing to do. Is pretending not to hear our husbands walk in the door a regular thing wives do when our husbands are in big, big trouble?
If so, here’s the crazy part: There was no trouble. I wasn’t angry at him in the least; indeed, I was HAPPY that he was home. Inside I felt a surge of joy—joy mixed with relief that my solo parenting was over for the day.
So why did I not acknowledge his presence? More →