Maybe it’s the fact that becoming a mom changes everything, even some crazy and unexpected things.
Or maybe it’s just that we moms are, by nature, a little crazy. Yeah, it’s probably that.
Whatever the reason, at some point or another all moms find themselves thinking some illogical, unreasonable, and unjustifiable thoughts. For some of us, those thoughts swim through our brains more days than not—sometimes even multiple times a day!
I’m here today to remind you that these negative musings are totally baseless. They’re rooted less in reality and more in stress, frustration, anxiety, and exhaustion.
So the next time one of these crazy ideas creeps up on you, refuse to give it the time of day. Tell it to go bother someone else, because you’re currently choosing sanity.
9 Irrational Thoughts All Moms Have Tweet this!
1. I suck at parenting.
When I interviewed nationally-acclaimed family doctor Deborah Gilboa, she said parenting is the only area that the majority of people feel like they’re messing up—probably because the stakes are so high, because we want to do a good job so badly.
But while you might feel like anyone could do a better job raising your kids than you are, remember that you are their mama for a reason. You are the perfect mother for your particular child.
Sure, you might yell more than you want to, or you might do some things to inadvertently cause your child to misbehave. But a misstep here and there does not a sucky parent make.
2. No one else’s kids are this bad/annoying/behind/etc.
Try as we might to avoid it, some days the comparison monster still rears its ugly head.
We see a toddler sitting quietly at a restaurant and assume ours is the only one who acts out in public.
We see a preschooler who can count to 100—forwards and backwards—and think our kid is light years behind the learning curve.
We see a teen who never rolls her eyes and for a moment wonder if ours is the only one questioning authority.
Reality check: More often than not, your kid is completely and totally normal.
3. I’m going to get a ton done today!
No, you’re probably not.
Why? Because the moment you get to work, you’re going to get a call that your kid just threw up at school, please come pick him up immediately.
Or the minute you wake up to conquer the day, you discover your baby is starting on another tooth, so you might as well go ahead and cancel your plans.
There are certainly some things you can do to be more productive today, but you might as well accept the fact that you’re never going to accomplish as much as you’d probably like.
4. My child hates me.
No, she doesn’t. Even if she said she hates you—even if she said it multiple times—rest assured, she still doesn’t actually hate you.
5. My partner isn’t attracted to my post-baby body.
Truth: The only person who has a problem with your post-baby body is you.
You fret over stretch marks your partner would have to squint to see. You bemoan a few extra pounds that your partner couldn’t care less about. He wants you just as much—correction, he wants you more than he did before you become a mom.
Your partner loves your post-baby body. You should start loving it too.
6. I’ll never feel like myself again.
Granted, this one isn’t totally irrational, because it’s probably accurate to say you won’t ever feel exactly the same as you did pre-children.
But new moms, I promise that eventually you’ll feel like yourself—just a new, better, more complete version of yourself.
7. My kid has a fever, therefore he must have a life-threatening illness.
A sick child is certainly something to take seriously, considering that their little immune systems are still developing.
But that doesn’t mean every tiny lapse in health is a sign of something more terrible. Remember, when you hear hoof beats, think horses, not zebras.
8. I’m screwing up my kids. They’re going to need years of therapy.
I suppose it’s true that a lot of people trace their issues back to their mothers, but that’s only because their moms were the most involved—and therefore most influential—people in their lives. Not a bad thing!
9. I’m a terrible mother.
Do you love your kids? Then you’re not a terrible mother! End of story.
Have you had any of these irrational thoughts? Can you think of any others?
Did you enjoy this post? If so, I’d be so grateful if you shared it with other moms who are probably thinking these irrational thoughts too!